Foundations are crucial

As a child my mother taught me the importance of foundation garments. Ok, so that is a joke but she did , just like I believe most mothers do especially with girls. As I was running this morning I noticed a wall with cracks in the middle, soon the wall will have to be fixed. It seemed that it was not built correctly. This triggered my thinking that we, as a society have lost our ability to prioritize. We do not seem to value jobs that are in fact very important to society but yet value people that make money off other people with no real social value except that they have made money off "managing " other people. People are valuing money and material things. Look at the least paying jobs, they are caretakers of the very ill, teachers, day care workers, and food service employees. These people work day in and day out with our elderly parents, they feed terminally ill people, they cook food for us and educate and care for our children. Yet, we do not value them. Such a shame that we don't value the people are, on a daily basis, forming our next generation. Construction workers that build the homes we live in. Seems that we need to start looking at the value in the jobs that these people do because these people are involved in the foundation of our community, and out society. I believe that we all have gifts we are born with that are meant to better society. Not everyone's gifts have the same monetary value which is sad because the reality is money is money and a means to acquire goods and services but should not give more value to the person holding the money. Money that changes in actual value through out a person's life span. What does not change and is of actual value is the person's moral character. The person's ability and willingness to provide warmth, love, and companionship to their family and those they love. I have seen very happy poor people and have seen very unhappy "rich" people. The love of oneself, self acceptance and an awareness that we are all part of a community is a great gift to have and hold. One must love and accept oneself. Once you accept yourself both the bad and the good, you will be more accepting of others. We need to be grateful for construction workers that build our buildings, cooks and chefs that cook for us, farmers that farm for us, child and elderly caretakers that care for our parents and children. They provide a foundation for us and we need to learn to value the gift they give. No man is an island, and it does take a village.

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Everyone seems to have an opinion and they think they are correct. OY! Problem is that everyone's opinion is based on their life, their culture, their world. Every one Googles and yes, there you will find people's opinions. Seeking advice is easy these days and everyone will give you a suggestion. A should, could, etc which are dirty words that don't help. I have discussed these "dirty" words in other blogs because they in fact are not helpful. You need to do what is right for YOU. For you, not anyone online or anyone that you know socially. The problem is most people never take the time the know themselves and trust themselves. You need to understand that there will always be times when you feel you don't know yourself well, but you can always come back to "center" Center is your core, who you are. Your values, your comfort zone, where you feel OK. Mind you, there will be times when you may stray from your core but hopefully you can get in tune to knowing when you are straying from your core. We all stray but should be able to make it back. How do you find your core? It takes some time with yourself. I am not a fan of "self help books" because they are not all created equal. There are some good ones but you have to be careful. I do believe you also need to become aware of your spiritual self. No, not pushing a specific religion. You may start where your family started, if your parents did not introduce you to spirituality then do some research and go as close to what your ancestors worshiped, learn that and grow from there. I have to add here that I do believe in a higher power and this is very important in this type of work. It helps that there is a higher power, a creator, that knows us, loves and accepts us. If you were created, in love, and for a purpose, that, grounds you. You are not a helium balloon just flowing aimlessly through life. The problem is most people have tuned me out. Higher power? God? Church? Now I have lost people. But, taking time to meditate or pray is a very centering activity. It's such a beautiful thing to love yourself as you are. Big, tall, short, overweight, tanned, white, black, messy, whatever adjective describes you. Sure, that doesn't mean that because you are messy by nature you need to live in a dirty kennel. No, we all have weaknesses and strengths. We work with what we have and work at doing our best. Self Acceptance because you were made this way for a purpose. So, if you are the only person with a particular thought which you think is correct. Respect others but ask yourself why you think you have that thought. What is it based on? Journal, learn and discuss without necessarily following the crowd. Do what you think is correct after self analysis and discernment. Remember that there is good and evil in the world, ying yang, whatever you want to call it. You will be more confident when you know why you think what you and it is good for you and it's good for others. Working with out knowing who you are, coreless , may get you lost in a wild and crazy world. You need to be able to discern between good and bad for you and for society. Peace.